December 18, 2006 12:33 - Part 5 - 14 Hot First Dates In 47 Days With The Power Of Online Dating
What Qualities Do Women Find Attractive In Men?Women when asked will say they want a nice guy who treats them like a pricness and pretty much has no balls of his own. They like the idea of getting flowers and having a sensitive guy to talk to about their problems.
All women will tell you they want to date the nice guy or that they can never seem to find a nice guy to date.
The problem is, this isn't exactly correct. These women arn't lying when they say they want these things.... on the surface they do, because it makes sense, it makes sense to want a guy like this, but on a subconscious level, they really want a man who takes control and acts like a man should
So what qualities do women want in men?
What they've always wanted and always will want. Women want their men to be men and not wussy boys who ask for approval to scratch their noses.
I know this sounds harsh, but it's true.
Have you ever noticed the following?
When you give a girl a compliment or tell a girl how beautiful she is she shys away from you?
BUT
When you notice a flaw about her she will get more involved in the conversation and take you more seriously.
Have you ever noticed....
When you buy girls gifts and take them to expensive dinners they end up later that night thanking you for a great evening and going out with another guy?
BUT
If you just go for a quick drink and act like you are equals she feels attracted to you because you're not catering to her every whim.
Have you noticed when....
You call a girl often after a date and she seems distant and funny
BUT
When you don't call her and you act like you're busy and could live with her or without her, she won't stop calling you.
WOMEN DON'T WANT TO BE CATERED TO, HOUNDED, TREATED LIKE PRINCESSES OR ANY OTHER RUBBISH YOUR MOTHER TOLD YOU ABOUT DATING.
This is from my experience what women want from a man.....
They Want You To Be Confident
They Want You To Lead
They Don't Want You To Get Emotional
They Want You To Be Fun With No Hang Ups
They Want You To Make Them Laugh
They Want You To Make Them Wonder
They Want You To Be Interesting
They Want You To Know What You Want From Life
Want to learn how to do those things.... read on!
See tomorrows entry to learn: Hard And Fast Dating Rules You Must Follow At All Times -
Christian Dating Service....
December 19, 2006 12:21 - Part 6 - 14 Hot First Dates In 47 Days With The Power Of Online Dating
Hard And Fast Dating Rules You Must Follow At All Times - The Right Attitude To Have Towards Women, Dating And Life!This whole section is some of the most powerful information you will ever read, not just about dating but about life in general.
When your life is going to plan, you feel confident and when you feel confident, you exude a persona that naturally attracts people and makes them want to be around you. No one likes dating a sad sack.
These rules are what I live my life by and were written by me for me, I never thought I would share these rules with anyone except maybe my future children.
Dating Rules
Rule 1: Always be confident in yourself - MAIN RULE!
People who have real confidence in themselves attract people naturally. People can tell when you are confident with yourself and where you are going with your life.
If you're not confident in yourself, why? Is it because you have no money? Is it because you think you're overweight or ugly?
All of this can be overcome with confidence. Honestly, girls (girls we want to date) don't care a lot about these things. Of course, if you are really over weight and you have bad teeth and you dress like a hobo, change yourself.
It's that simple. If you want to be sucessful with women, you can't hide behind excuses to fail.
I know a lot of men who arn't rich and arn't good looking who are very successful with women because they act like they are good looking and they are rich, they act in ways that make men and women naturally attracted to them.
A happy go lucky guy who smiles a lot will get x10 the amount of attention as a sad sack sitting in the corner no matter how hot or rich he is.
Be happy with yourself, but if there is something holding you back from being a more outgoing person, fix it.
I had a large mole on my face and while no women seemed to care about it, it made me feel selfconscious and I didn't feel confident in my looks, so I got it removed.
The only real difference I see now is not in my looks but in my personality. I feel better about MYSELF and I did it for MYSELF, I didn't do it for women's approval, I did it because I wanted to be more outgoing and feel better about myself.
Conrinued tomorrow. Christian Dating Service....
December 20, 2006 15:47 - Part 7 - 14 Hot First Dates In 47 Days With The Power Of Online Dating
Dating Rules 2 - 3 - 4Rule 2: Relax - be totally calm - act like u dont need her
As you can tell these rules are not in any particular order but when you first start dating someone, act calm, be cool.
Especially on the first date, be cool. Don't be nervous, don't get all excited and act like a goof.
Don't act desperate around women, just be yourself and not worry about the outcome, dating should be fun!
Rule 3: Be Cocky and Funny - be outgoing and have fun AND BE FUN TO BE AROUND - be charming/gentleman
You will hear me talk about being cocky and funny a lot in this book, it's something I learnt from another book - Free Dating Tips For Men Click Here
Being cocky to me means not being afraid to joke around with women. Men are so scared to be themselves around women that they act all uptight and nervous and are not sure what to say.
Don't worry about. Most men by nature are not big mouth arrogant SOB's, so just say what's on your mind.
Talking about sex and other taboo subjects is FINE. Teasing a girl lightly is fine, as long as it's funny and a little bit cocky. A great resource to learn how to have a fun conversaation is-
"How to Be Funny" by Stanley Lyndon
Be the fun guy to hang around, make dating fun for you and her.
Rule 4: Don't get emotional even if the woman does - women will test you - nothing to be insecure about
This rule IS SO IMPORTANT when you start dating someone more seriously. I made this mistake a couple of times early on and the relationships ended pretty soon after.
If a woman says something to you that makes you feel nervous, angry, upset and you feel like you're going to get overly emotional and say something you will regret, FOR THE GOOD OF YOUR SANITY, Don't say anything.
It's a lot easier to say nothing then it is to take something stupid back. Think before you speak. Women will always do this. Women will blame you for things that are not your fault, things will happen in their lives that make them emotional, you're job is to stay calm.
I'll give you a personal example. I started dating a girl I REALLY liked, but a couple of weeks into the relationship, she told me she was pregnant and she wasn't sure who the father was, because before she started dating me, she was seeing two other guys.
I freaked out, and you probably think, well rightly so, and it was probably for the best things ended, but, breaking up with someone is better when you're the one breaking up with the girl
I know this sounds childish, but it's true. It's a mental thing. Being dumped is a horrible feeling and take's longer to get over.
Continued Tomorrow
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December 21, 2006 07:06 - Part 8 - 14 Hot First Dates In 47 Days With The Power Of Online Dating
Rules 5 - 6Rule 5: Lead in the relationship - Always be a man - IE Dad - say things like "you do what you wanna do"
Girls like a guy who will lead in the relationship. I don't mean bossy, I mean lead. It's a manly thing to do.
When a woman asks what you want to do, don't reply back, "I dunno, what do you want to do", take the bull by the horn's and make a decision. I know it's a bit of a pain to be the one who does this all the time, but it really works.
I also added a part about my dad in this rule. He is one of those old fashioned type of guy's, always leads, makes executive decions. He isn't wishy washy.
Also, when women throw things at you that you're not expecting, never over react, I touched on this just before, and I'm going to again.
If a girl says she's going out with male friends, or seeing an ex boyfriend, don't flip your lid, this is the quickest way to push her away.
Just say things like, "you do what you wanna do", "it's your life, I'm not your father, have fun". Saying things like this make you sound confident in yourself and don't really care what she does.
Begging her not to go and doing all sorts of crazy things guys do will push her away for good. For additional relationship advice see "The Relationship Attractor Factor" by Susie and Otto Collins.
Rule 6: Live an active and full life - you come first - plenty of fish in the sea - Always keep busy
Most of you are probally thinking how am I going to remember all these things, and you're not suppose to really. Use them all, or use just a few, refer to them often and they will sink in over time.
But if you only remember one dating rule, this is it.
Always keep busy! Never make too much time for a girl when you first start dating. All the other rules will fall into place if you just follow this one.
When you're sitting at home with nothing to do, you will be tempted to want to ring any girl you're dating too much and you will become too available.
If she's says lets make plans for tuesday, say no you're busy, how about wednesday.
Get a hobby, play a sport, go out more with your friends and if you don't have any friends, make some!
Keep your mind busy and everything else will fall into place because you will be too busy with your life to care what she is doing. She will be just a nice little extra in your life, not your whole life!
Keep busy guys!
Continued Tomorrow
Christian Dating Service....
December 22, 2006 19:09 - Part - 9 - 14 Hot First Dates In 47 Days With The Power Of Online Dating
Rules 7 - 9
Rule 7: Don't rush the dating process - build the mystery - forcing repells attraction
Again, this goes with keeping busy. Never see a girl more then twice a week for at least the first 10 to 20 dates. Seriously. I know you will want to spend all your time with someone if you think she's the one, but, you need to build the attraction, not force it.
This way is best for both of you. I feel most guys will settle for a girl because she wants a relationship, even tho she might not be the girl for him.
Take your time, have fun, date multiple women, it's ok.
Rule 8: Let things go, the past is the past - but always tell it as it is - no hangups!
Every one has a past, and if I've made any mistake too much, its this one. You have to accept people for who they are, if you really like someone, leave the past where it belongs, in the past.
We all have baggage. Of course, there are limits.
Rule 9: Don't write sappy emails ever, never write anything because of fear or insecurity
What is it with guys and writing sappy letters or emails when they feel like they are losing the girl or have lost the girl.
If a girl breaks up with you, let it go, move on with your life, start dating again and you will find this will bring back love quicker then a sappy email professing your undying love for the girl.
Think before you speak, think before you type!
Rule 10: Girls find a guy hot when he has a plan for life - IE I told a girlfriend about my dreams for life
I don't know what it is, but when your talking about something your passionate about, people are naturally attracted to you.
I use to date a girl who played guitar and she was so passionate about it, it was a real turn on. She knew what she wanted to be and I found that sexy.
Same thing applies to men. I tell girls about my dream of running the largest publishing company in the world one day and girls find my passion and that idea really attractive.
Rule 11: Don't appologise for the sake of appologising - Don't appologise if you've done nothing wrong
This is a real turn off for women. Guys have a habit of appologising for girls bad behaviours and it's not on.
Women see this as a sign of weakness. If a girl is doing something or saying something you don't like, tell her that. If she's acting bratty, tell her that.
Don't put up with moody behaviour just because she thinks you deserve to be treated that way, you don't.
Christian Dating Service....
December 23, 2006 18:28 - Part - 10 - 14 Hot First Dates In 47 Days With The Power Of Online Dating
Rule 12: First Date Advice - Lean Back Relax Don't Be Nervous, Be Confident, Funny, Cocky, But Don't Take It Too Far!I must admit, one date I did take the cocky and funny routine a bit far and probably was a bit more relaxed then I should have been and I came across very arrogant and sarcastic.
Arrogance is a huge turn off and there is a fine line between that and cocky and funny.
Rule 13: No matter how funny or cocky you are, treat sex with respect. If you do have sex with a girl, make it special, like she's the only one that matters.
Rule 14: Dress well, but don't over do it!
Personal Life
Rule 1: Exercise often - 100 situps, 100 pushups, running, work on arms
Girls don't care if you're not buff, but looks are important too. Take care of your body if for no one else but yourself.
I do 100 situps, 100 pushups every day. I do a light weight session focusing on building bigger arms and chest muscles. I also run 3 times a week. This is a perfect workout that takes very little time out of your week and will make you look and feel a lot better inside and out, I guarantee it!
Rule 2: Never let anything or anyone overwhelm my emotions to the point of incapacitation
Nothing in life is worth letting your life go down the drains for. If something bad happens, pick yourself up, don't stop working or letting your finances suffer.
Rule 3: Be Independent always
Rule 4: Always keep learning new things and travel
Read lots, watch documentaries, take courses and travel all you can. You'll thank me for this advice one day.
Rule 5: Always have fun always have a positive attitude - everything will be ok
Rule 6: Every day or when you feel stressed sit silent for 30 minutes and think about nothing just relax
This great advice I received from Allen Says, you can read the whole principle behind this at ....
http://www.instantgurublog.com/?p=17#comments
Rule 7: Don't let little things rattle you - never over react
Life is full of little surprises, just like dating, but let them rattle you, just keep going on with your life like nothing happened.
He who angers you becomes your master.
Rule 8: Create a life's to do list and follow thru with it completely and systematically
This is something you must do. Everyone has goals for life, I don't care if it's only 4 things, write them down and check them off.
I have close to 100 things I want to do before I do, like learn to speak German, go to Oktoberfest, things like that.
I also have more serious things like, Run the largest publishing company in the world, which I still quite havn't checked off yet ;)
Rule 9: Set high goals and standards for your life and never let anyone compromise them
Rule 10: Always have an open mind and don't be judgemental
Rule 11: Don't Get Moody With People! - Just Relax!
Nothing lowers the level of conversation more than raising the voice.
Rule 12: You Miss 100% Of The Shots You Don't Take!
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December 24, 2006 18:08 - Part - 11- 14 Hot First Dates In 47 Days With The Power Of Online Dating
It's Alright To Have Faults And Be Yourself - You Have My Permission To Make Mistakes Like I said in the above section, I've made mistakes before and at the time I thought I was the biggest idiot, but it's all a part of learning how to be successful with women.
No one is perfect and it's ok to have quirky little habits, no woman expects you to be perfect or a dating robot that knows exactly what to do at all times.
The main thing is to make sure it doesn't get you down and you don't stop trying if you have a bad experience. Every woman isn't going to like you and vice versa, but....
You miss 100% of all shots you don't take!
Chapter 3 - Step 2
Find 3 Online Dating Sites To Put Your Online Profile On
There are THOUSANDS of online dating sites out there, so what one's best for you?
For starters, the best idea is to cast a wide net and put your profile on at least 3 online dating sites.
What I've been doing recently is I've been putting my profile on 2 large online dating sites and one niche dating site.
For instance right now I'm using Match.com, Yahoo personals and RSVP.com.au which is a smaller Australian Internet dating site.
I usually get a lot more of the women I like and that are closer to me by using the niche online dating site, but I get the bulk of my dates from women on Match.com and Yahoo personals.
So what sites should you be using?
I really recommend you use Match.com as one of your choices.
Here are a list of online dating sites I recommend trying.
Yahoo Personals
Lava Life
Eharmony.com - Do the questionaire!
Americansingles.com
Jdate.com
Christiansoulmates.com
Date.com
Friendfinder.com
Singleparentsmingle.com
BigChurch.com
Plentyoffish.com - Possibley the largest free dating site on the internet!
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