February 1, 2007 06:38 - Part 13 - 5 Steps to Online Dating Success!
The Braggart PitfallBragging, as we all know, is a major turnoff. So it is best to steer completely clear of it. This is especially true in the case of physical attributes. You might be one hell of a looker, but let the other person decide, remember that what wine is for Peter can turn out to be venom for Paul.
You can make implied statements like, "I am certainly not a bad looker," or "opinion is divided, some people think that I am good looking while others think that I am not." But perhaps the best way of describing yourself would be to add a touch of humor to it.
If you are chubby you could say something like, "I am round in all the right places…I hope." If you are tall you could say something like, "some say I should play basketball." If you are on the short side you could say something like, "I might seem to lacking in size but I assure you, it is all there."
You know what is the best part about such witty remarks about oneself? Humor always works. All of us have been blessed with a sense of humor to some degree at least and if a person is able to make funny comments about himself or herself, that always acts as a turn on. And you can take my word for it; humor sells like a billion dollars.
The Hackneyed Pitfall
We have seen and heard other people describe themselves and these kind of descriptions sort of sink into our heads. The moment some one asks us to describe ourselves, we start off by using such hackneyed phrases.
I think it is much better to completely steer clear of hackneyed phrases. It makes us look like just another face in the crowd. Tell me, unless you have an identical twin, have you ever seen any one who looks exactly like you?
Then why on earth should your online dating profile sound like a banal organ that has been played again and again. Try to sound as original as you can. Make yourself sound interesting.
Try to use as many similes and comparisons as possible. If you are blonde, well don't just say that you are blonde. You could descriptions like, "My hair is the color of freshly harvested hay."
If you are a brunette you could say something like:
"My hair color would make a raven blush." If you have red hair, you could try something like, "My hair is like the setting sun."
Another point that I would like to add is you do not have to belittle yourself. Every coin has two sides and it all depends on the way you look at it. For example, if you have dark skin, there is absolutely no reason to feel bad about it. It all depends on how you put it across. You could try expressions like, "If you like chocolate then you are going to love the color of my skin." Or "My body looks like polished wood."
Remember, beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder, and it is left to you to convince the beholder. Most people are willing to believe what you tell them, provided you tell them convincingly enough.
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February 1, 2007 10:27 - Red-Hot Persuasion Wizard or Conversation Dud?
You know that everything you want in life you have to get with the cooperation of other people. Without the cooperation of others, you'd never get a job, go out on a date, or have any friends. In order to gain cooperation, you have to use persuasive conversation skills to get it.Most people try to persuade others by rationalizing with them. Doesn't always work. Sometimes they try to argue with someone to get what they want. That won't work. But smart people learn something about the art of persuasive conversation and learn to give the other person something valuable in the exchange.
A friend of mine, Michael Lee, has written a new book titled "How To Be A Red-Hot Persuasion Wizard In 20 Days Or Less" and I have to say, it is a phenomenal book.
Michael has such a wonderful writing style. As you read this book, you get the feeling that he is right there with you, guiding you gently through the material.
I think that part of this comes from Michael's sincere honesty. He doesn't try to overpower you with his credentials like so many false guru wanna-be's out there. He's very up front with the fact that he started out right where you are now, afraid of everything, easily taken advantage of, with almost no self-confidence at all.
When you reach the end of Michael's book, you find that you've learned so much, and you now have the confidence to put into practice everything he's taught you. It's like you've grown up with a friend who will be there for you no matter what happens, ready to help you get everything you always wanted out of life.
That's something that I rarely find in any book I read. Most authors seem to throw information at you, and while you realize that it's good information, you have no idea how to put it into use. Not so with Michael's book. Everything that you read here is easily understood, so much so that you seem to automatically know how to use the information given to you.
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February 2, 2007 06:01 - Part 14 - 5 Steps to Online Dating Success!
The Boredom PitfallTry to make yourself sound as interesting as possible. I mean it. If you are painting a self-portrait, you might as well use the right colors. Before we leave our homes, we all spend at least five minutes in front of our mirrors in an attempt to make our selves look as presentable and as impressive as possible.
Well, the same thing applies to our profile. Remove all drab details about yourself that might be of no interest to the reader. If you job, is something like editing journals on the etymology of words derived from ancient Aramaic, well, just say that you have an editing job.
Similarly try to bear in mind that anything can be written in two ways. You can either make it interesting or boring; so work on it until you are sure that it will not bore a reader to death and the best test for this would be to hand it over to a close friend and ask that friend's opinion. Nobody likes a bore so take all efforts not to sound like one.
The Vagueness Pitfall
At the same time, what ever you put down about yourself must not be confusing. It just does not work to put down a statement like, "while I am not really given to sports, nor am I considered to be an outdoor person, I have developed a passing interest in watching football, and have had my stints with Terra firma."
Phew! If, anything drives people away, statements like this certainly do. For Heaven's sake avoid phrases like "I am different," especially when you are talking about your appearance. The other person in all likelihood will conjure up images of a three-horned monster or a lion tailed monkey.
Other examples are phrases like, "I don't play by the rules," or "I am game for something new." These expressions can be hopelessly misleading, it is the easiest thing in the world to add a sexual innuendo to such an expression, and that would be a sure shot method of biting off more than you can chew.
Now that we have discussed the major pitfalls, let us go the real profile. The reason I said real profile is that the profile must indeed reflect the person you are.
The Web of Deceit
While you might take some care to conceal your identity, it is best not to lie.
Do not try to bluff your way through a relationship because at sometime the whole thing might come out and as we all know, one lie leads to another and then before you know it the whole relationship will crash. Be as honest and as frank as you can, taking care to conceal your identity.
Some one once said that a friend is some one who knows all about you and loves you just the same. Therefore, there is no need to hide things about you. Of course you do not have to tell the person every ghastly, gory detail about yourself, but at the same time you do not have to conjure up stuff about you that just is not true.
If, you do paint a very rosy picture about yourself, including things that just are not true, or are far-fetched exaggerations, and the other person does flip for you, in reality you will be basking in another person's glory. The picture you have painted is just not you.
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